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She’s come to you and said she’s pregnant…. Now what? Are you scared? anxious? excited?

Know the Choices:
There is a flood of emotion and reactions for both you and your partner when learning of any pregnancy. It can be especially difficult, however, if this is an unplanned pregnancy. It is very important for both of you to know what options (link to options page) are available. Pregnancy Center East is here to help you in a non-judgmental, loving way.

Confirming the Pregnancy:
The first thing you’ll want do is verify if she has a viable pregnancy. Natural miscarriage occurs in 15-20% of pregnancies. ¹ We provide accurate, confidential and free pregnancy tests along with many other support services. We are here to help both of you get as much information as possible to make a well informed decision.. If she is pregnant, you are a father and she is a mother. No matter what choice you embrace, you will always be the parent to this baby.

You don’t want to make any decision until you know she is pregnant and gather all the information about all your options.

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Some Quick Advice:

Stay Calm: Both of you are experiencing a rush of emotions and gut reactions. Though she is carrying the baby, you are both parents now. It is very important to learn and consider all the possibilities and consequences before jumping to a decision. Three lives will be impacted by the decisions you both make.

Confirm the Pregnancy: Women miss periods for several reasons. It is very important for you and the mother to first determine if this is a viable pregnancy.

Listen: Listen to her. She is equally uncertain and working through this untimely news just as you are.

Talk Honestly: It is normal to have many feelings when something life changing unexpectedly arises. Women often think that the father of the baby wants her to have an abortion because he says things like “It’s up to you” “I don’t Care” “It’s your choice” Instead, tell her what you think and how you feel. It is very important to be prepared to talk honestly with each other and be prepared to talk with other important people in your lives (i.e. parents, siblings, grandparents, etc).

Be Informed: You don’t have to make a decision right away. Gather all the information about your choices – this includes all the challenges as well as benefits. This decision is not easy, but being informed will empower you both in the process.

Be Present: Make sure she knows she is not alone. Be available for doctor visits, classes or anything else. The more involved you are, the more empowered you will feel.

Adoption:
Adoption is a loving way to make a responsible plan for your baby, if the mother and you decide you cannot parent your child.   You will always be your baby's birth parents.  Come in or call and speak with one of our volunteers today to learn more about Adoption as a loving choice.

Abortion Risks:
Abortion has many risks to the woman and the MAN. There are emotional, psychological and physical problems. If you care about this woman you don't want her to do anything that could harm her physically or emotionally.
Another sad thing about abortion we have learned is that most couples break up shortly after they get an abortion. Feelings of betrayal and hurt, along with grief over the loss of this baby can break up relationships very quickly. If you want to remain in a relationship with this person, abortion is going to put your relationship at risk.
Abortion is PERMANENT. There is no "undoing" this decision. Before you make this permanent decision, get ALL the FACTS. Explore ALL your options. We can help you with this.

Other Resources:
http://www.priestsforlife.org/postabortion/fathersandabortion.htm

References:
(¹ http://www.acog.org/publications/patient_education/bp090.cfm)