Is your girlfriend pregnant or do you think she might be pregnant?             

Are you confused about what to do?

Are you wondering if you are the father?

Are you wondering if she will carry the baby?

                                                    Are you thinking now isn’t the best time to have a baby?

 Are you thinking of abortion?

Are you worried about all that is involved with being a parent?

Are you concerned with school and how a pregnancy will affect your future?

Are friends or family encouraging you to push for an abortion?

The good news is that you are not alone.  Lots of people experience an unplanned pregnancy or a concern about being pregnant.

When someone is pregnant they have only 3 options:  Parenting, Adoption or Abortion. Sometimes abortion seems like the easy solution to the situation.  You may think that no one will know and that both of you can get on with your life and future plans.

Confirming the Pregnancy:

The first thing you need to do is find out if she is really pregnant. We provide accurate, confidential and free pregnancy tests along with many other support services.  We are here to help both of you get as much information as possible to make a well informed decision.  Women miss periods for several reasons.  If she is pregnant, she will be affected immediately but it will also affect your life.

You don’t want to make any decision until you know she is pregnant and gather all the information about all your options.

Call us today to schedule an appointment:  513-321-3100 or email us at www.pregnancycentereast@fuse.net  It is great when the guy joins the woman for her appointment.  She needs lots of support from you at this time.

Your Rights:

Parenting:  If your girlfriend is pregnant and carries the baby to term, you have the rights and responsibilities to help raise and care for the child for the next 18 years.

Adoption:  If your girlfriend decides to place the child for adoption, she needs your consent to do this.  You will be provided with information about adoption and have to sign legal documents to allow the adoption to occur.  You should also register with the Ohio Putative Father Registry at 1-888-313-3100 or (614) 225-9316.  This protects your rights and ensures that you are contacted should she decide to place the child for adoption.

Abortion:  This is the only option in which you have no rights.  Abortion is a “woman’s right or choice”. She can have an abortion without your consent even if you are married to her. 

Women often think that the father of the baby wants her to have an abortion because he says things like “It’s up to you”  “I don’t Care”  “It’s your choice”   Instead, tell her what you think and how you feel. 

Abortion Risks:

You may not realize this but abortion has many risks to the woman and the MAN.  There are emotional, psychological and physical problems. If you care about this woman you don't want her to do anything that could harm her physically or emotionally. 

Another sad thing about abortion that we have learned is that most couples break up shortly after they get an abortion. Feelings of betrayal and hurt, along with grief over the loss of this baby can break up relationships very quickly.  If you want to remain in a relationship with this person, abortion is going to put your relationship at risk.

At the abortion clinic:

If you both determine to have an abortion, ask the staff these questions:

• What kind of abortion will she have? Will it be chemical or surgical? Ask about the risks. It's important that you both sit through any discussion about the abortion procedure. Most women will appreciate a man who wants to be with them through this difficult time.
• Who is the doctor and what are his credentials? Be sure to write down his name. Don't let her sign any papers that might release him from any liability if he hurts her.
• Check to see if the clinic is clean and sanitary. Many clinics are never inspected by governmental agencies. As a result, they can provide sub-standard care to their patients. If the clinic doesn't appear spotless, find another one.
• If they offer ultrasounds, insist on being allowed to view the screen. Both of you have a right to view any medical tests that are being conducted. You want to see if the pregnancy is viable.
• Should your girlfriend/wife have any doubts, take her home. There is no rush to make this decision. Any hesitation on her part could mean significant regrets in the future. Women have reported that they are waiting for their boyfriend to say “lets get outa here” when they are in the waiting room.  It’s ok to say that to her.  Always remind her that you will support her in the pregnancy and don't want to push her into something she doesn't want to do.
• Accompany her throughout the clinic. Should the clinic staff seek to isolate you from your girlfriend/wife be immediately suspicious and ask her to leave with you for the time being. She needs you now more than ever and she also needs someone to ensure that she isn't hurt in any way. Whatever the clinic rules are, there is no reason you cannot hold her hand through this procedure.

Abortion is PERMANENT. There is no "undoing" this decision. Before you make that permanent decision, get ALL the FACTS.  Explore ALL your options.  We can help you with this. 

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